You are not alone. Start here for help, healing, and hope.
You are on a journey for which no parent could prepare, stumbling your way along with no signposts and no one to ask for directions. This site won't give you the answers but hopefully it will shed a bit of light in front of you and help you find a few traveling companions.
Basically every page on this website is relevant for parents, particularly those who are supportive parents of both the child/ren who were harmed and the child/ren who caused the harm. Some material is aimed mainly at parents whose children are still growing up, but there is plenty that will be helpful for parents whose children are adults.
If You Are a Parent Who Just Found Out
You are not alone. Breathe. You can survive this...
The following pages include information you may need right away.
Book full of compassionate, realistic, need-to-know information for parents who have just discovered their child has sexual behavior problems.
"I wish I had been given this on Day One." --Brandy Black
Listen to a 15 minute conversation with Timothy J Kahn, author of Healthy Families, in this
According to professionals who work with children recovering from sexual abuse, the most important factor in a child's ability to heal and thrive is having at least one parent who believes them, protects them, and supports them through actions such as listening, finding help, respecting their feelings and wishes.
Help for Parents Outside This Site
Book: Sibling Sexual Abuse: A Guide for Confronting America's Silent Epidemic Brad Watts, LPC, CSOTP
Book: Understanding and Responding to Sibling Sexual Abuse based on UK Research, 2020-2022
Podcast: #SiblingsToo Nancy Morris MSc Applied Psychology
Public Health Agency of Canada Online Booklet: Sibling Sexual Abuse: A Guide for Parents
Mothers of Sexually Abused Children comprehensive website
Facebook: Parents Coping with Sibling Sexual Trauma and Abuse (private group, must request to join)
Kkccares.org weekly call-in support group for parents of sibling sexual abuse, inc. parents whose children are now adults
Hearts of Healing online support group for parents of sibling sexual abuse on the dailystrength.org platform; not moderated
Hidden Water Orange Circle support groups for caregivers of children who have experienced or caused sexual harm; based on a restorative justice model, available worldwide with or without participation of the children
For other friends and family: Empower Survivors moderated Facebook group, Friends and Family of those Sexually Abused as Children includes those supporting survivors of any type of child sexual abuse
Parents Share Their Stories of Sibling Sexual Trauma
People Magazine Feature: One Mother Shares Her Story of Sibling Sexual Abuse in her Family with Hope Sittler of 5WAVES.org
Featured in the British Journal of Social Work: A Parent's Experience Working with Professionals Following Disclosure of Sibling Sexual Abuse/Trauma by 5WAVES cofounder Fiona Ward
Book: Buried Saints by Brin Miller, a memoir centered on a family's story of sibling sexual abuse
BBC File on 4 audio feature on sibling sexual abuse includes excerpts of a family's story, from the mother's perspective
Two mothers share their stories of hope and healing in this webinar for professionals (parents' stories at 25:00-45:00, webinar can be accessed after free registration), National Child Traumatic Stress Network
An anonymous mother shares her journey with kkccares.org:
Guardians of the Village Gate is an audio blog hosted by a mother of sibling sexual trauma, featuring interviews with parents telling their stories of dealing with sibling sexual trauma and other types of child sexual abuse, professionals who have responded to sibling sexual trauma, and an in-depth account of her own story. Sample interviews available to listen, more available with subscription. Parents may contact host if they are interested in sharing their story.
Stop It Now! Webinars
Dear Stop It Now Helpline... (all are actual questions, used with permission, webinars include discussion with Stop It Now staff and guest experts)
Can I Have Him Arrested? (appropriate responses when children age 12 and under display harmful sexual behavior)
The following publications are aimed at professionals but have plenty of critical information for parents:
Tips for Parents from 5Waves.org
Resource List for Parents from 5Waves.org