

Am I a Monster?
“Am I a monster?”
It’s a question that people who have crossed another person’s sexual boundaries often ask themselves. It may be your greatest fear. You might have already had someone else call you a monster.
Answer: You are not a monster.
How can someone who doesn’t know me be so sure?
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You came to this site.
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You are aware that what you did was wrong.
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You care about the harm you have caused.
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You feel remorse--you know this is not who you want to be.
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You are looking for help. Start here to find it.
You are more than the worst thing you have ever done.
You are a full human.
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You can make choices
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You are responsible for your actions--past, present, and future
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You deserve respect
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You deserve support
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You deserve to be safe
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You deserve healthy human relationships
If you are bothered by something you did when you were younger and do not continue in the present, remember:
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You are not the person you were
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You have grown and matured
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You have shown your ability to make better choices
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You can still act to take responsibility for what you did in the past
If you’re worried about your current behavior, thoughts, or online habits,
WhatsOK.org blog answers Max: I hurt someone sexually. Am I a monster?
WhatsOK.org blog answers a 14 year old: I was abused but now I'm afraid I'm abusing other kids.
Watch the Stop It Now! Webinar: Am I an abuser because of my sexual behaviors as a kid?
If you’re not sure whether you should be concerned:
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Contact WhatsOK.org